Valentine’s Day is an often treasured day for couples and a dreaded one for singles. Whatever your relationship status, you can find depth, inspiration and reason to celebrate on this day.
Valentine’s Day is traced back to its origins as a celebration of the Christian Saint Valentine. He was among the canonized saints who were martyred in the face of non-believers. It wasn’t until the 14th century that the day took on any romantic connotations. It was Geoffrey Chaucer’s poetry which caused the celebration to take on romantic overtones.
So the original Valentine’s Day had everything to do with death, dying, martyrdom and the sacrifice of one’s self for some higher cause. Does not sound too romantic, right?
Well, actually yes!
Anytime we dedicate ourselves to something greater; we inspire higher ideals within. This does not mean we go out looking to get killed for a cause, but that we find something that inspires us, and makes us feel the love within.
It is love that makes life worth living. It can be hard to see that when single or recently separated. We can feel estranged, rejected, completely down and out. But times like these offer an excellent opportunity for deeper insight into ourselves.
Everyone goes through periods of feeling dejected and rejected. But it doesn’t have to last, and it doesn’t have to drag us down. We can take comfort in the fact that it will not last forever. Time heals the wounds, takes away the edge and the pain of a breakup. Secondly, we can use our solitude to go within and figure out more of who we are.
Have you been thinking about going back to school? Learning a new language? What about contributing something to your community? Is there a cause that really inspires you? If you love animals, you might volunteer your time at an animal shelter. If you have a soft spot for children in need, find out where in your community you can spend time with troubled kids; maybe read to them or help with homework. Make yourself more available to friends. If someone has an issue or heartbreak of their own, lend an ear. You will feel better when you help others. It will distract you from your pain and keep you from spiraling downward into self-centered depression.
Do something significant
If you are in a relationship, think of ways in which you can reinforce it, empower it and do something nice for your significant other. If your relationship is troubled, take the time to think of why. Take Valentine’s Day and the period before and after to reflect on love. Find real self-love and discover true power to love another.
Let that love empower your life, empower your existence and extend beyond romantic relationships. In this way, your heart will grow strong.
Take care of you
Do something nice for yourself. Go for a walk in a snowy forest or a park. Get a massage if you can afford one, go to a spa. Do something you love to do. Find yourself in the things and people you love. Do a good deed for a loved one, a friend or a stranger. Make random acts of kindness a part of your day. Integrate more love into your existence so that it becomes a habit. You will be surprised how easy it can get, and how a genuine smile to another person transforms them and you.
When most people think of love, they think of love only in the sense of a romantic relationship. Then they begin to think of the love they have for their family, children and friends. It takes longer to consider even love for a stranger or all the humanity in a broad sense. The more we can open up to love for all, the more we can foster and facilitate an atmosphere of self-love. If we can love all of existence, we can easily include ourselves among that universal love. If we love ourselves, in turn, we can more easily love others.
You don’t have to be a saint or a lover in the romantic sense to enjoy Valentine’s Day. Get into the spirit of love by doing what you love, what makes you and others feel good and what makes the world better.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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