[ iTunes ]
Listening is an active natural process that calls for your full attention. Listening involves engagement and your participation. When you are a good listener, it improves your happiness.
How does it improve your happiness?
Listening expands your knowledge, minimizes misunderstandings and is helpful in resolving conflicts and challenges. You will find that when you are around people, there is less tension because you listen to them.
Listening generates good conversation and builds stronger relationships.
Have you realized we tend to draw closer to people who listen to us? We are more comfortable in their presence and tend to be more open. Their ability to listen to us creates a sense of security because we feel respected. They do not need to say anything extra, only listen.
How about people who interrupt you in midsentence with their opinions or answers and assume they already know what you are about to say. You find you don’t enjoy being around such people.
Listening is considered the oldest and most influential tool for healing. That is why coaches and counselors make a living by listening to their clients. You may visit a coach with a particular problem. As you talk to them, you soon begin to solve your own problem. The coach may not have done anything except listen.
Listening is not natural for many people.
It calls for investing time and appreciating what the other person is saying.
The key to listening is to understand.
Don’t always be quick with a response. Remember, it is not about you.
Face the person who is speaking and make eye contact. The eye contact will minimize any distractions.
Pay attention to what they are saying.
Don’t be quick with an answer, remember, your job is to listen.
And finally, avoid unnecessary interruptions like answering your cell phone in the middle of a conversation.
How about you? What is your experience?