It is very easy to get hurt by other people. Even those that love us hurt us now and then. Hurt is everywhere and can happen to us at any time. The best we can do is to minimize its effect on us.
There is no such a thing as a pain-free relationship; however, there are a few things you can safely do to lessen the pain.
Avoid painful relationships
Since certain people are the source of your hurt, you best keep away from them and spare yourself the inevitable tag-along pain. This may mean that you may become lonely. But if this is the price you need to pay then it’s worth it.
Don’t be a prisoner of your past
The past holds the most prisoners after the grave. We cannot change the past though we have a say in the future. Right the wrongs and forgive others so you can move forward; do not allow yourself to be imprisoned in your past whatever the nature of prison.
Be in control
You have control of your destiny; all you need to do is exert it. We are all defined by the choices we make; whether good or bad. Take charge of your life and do not wallow in any form of misery. Mind what you say and to whom you say it.
Forgive and let go
When you hold a grudge, you bear the brunt of it. Many people suffer cancers that have developed as a result of holding grudges and refusing to forgive. You can tell you have forgiven someone when the person or the mention of their name ceases to irritate you. The forgetting is automated after that.
Guard against gossip
Someone should come up with an anti-gossip app. Remember that the person you gossip with has no limits. When it serves them, you become the subject of their next gossip. When gossip backfires as it always does, you end up being caught in the middle. All it takes is a pinch of truth, and it goes from bad to worse.
Learn to trust your intuition
Intuition is your inner warning that all is not well. The truth is if you learn to develop and trust your instincts you can spare yourself loads of misery. Your intuition could alert you to avoid certain people. Listen to the warning.
Prepare for the worst and hope for the best
How this works is you are less surprised when people do weird stuff.
Appreciate the saying, “To err is human” as mistakes are second nature to us. You did not perfect the art of walking in one day. It took several falls, bruises and maybe a few wounds.
Despite all the years and experience you have of walking, once in a while, you trip and fall without any reason. Shouldn’t you be an expert at walking by now? Forgive yourself for the occasional slip-ups, learn from your blunders and improve on them.
“Everyone is going to hurt you. You just have to find the ones worth suffering for.” – Bob Marley
Once in a while, someone will hurt you. As Bob Marley says, you are better off ignoring most hurts. You will transform yourself if you take care of your inner heart and focus on what brings joy to your life.
Now it’s your turn, how do you avoid being hurt?
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